Studies show us a new reason why we have to learn the wonderful arts of body language, especially if you want to succeed in getting your millionaire match. It turns out that spoken words only comprise 3% of the entire communication process, and the rest of the 97% is purely body language.
So what are a few things that you can watch out for to ensure that you have the perfect body language?
First, there's your POSTURE. Yeah, those lessons in elementary school will pay off. Remember all those times that teacher made you walk around with books on your head? Well, better remember those good times because you could use that to your advantage. Walk straight, don't slouch. Slouching is a common sign of insecurity, so stand tall and stand proud. But don't stand too stiff. When conversing, lean forward so that he would know that you are interested in what he has to say.
Titling your head and nodding are also good posture signs that you are engaged in the conversation and listening to whatever it is he has to say.
Second, remember to give him SPACE. When I mentioned leaning towards him, it doesn't mean that you have to lean ON him. Towards is different from on. Especially if its just your first or second date, personal space must be respected. Keep your distance a bit. This distance means that you are respecting his space, and when he invades yours, keep away. You wouldn't want to be too physically close on the first dates, right?
Third, your body language also tells when you are nervous. Stop fidgeting with your hands, your bag, your hanky. This would show that you do feel nervous, which your date might mirror too, and will make HIM nervous and uneasy. Now, I know that many women would have nervous habits, I think all people do, but still, it does good if you can try to control it and appear calm and collected. However, hand gestures are good body language signs because it helps in emphasizing points.
Now, pay close attention to your hands too. Clenched hands show nervousness or uptightness, while unclenched hands mean that you are open to him. Caressing things like your hair, your blouse, or your glass rim, may come across as sensual, so unless you're intentionally aiming for this, try to stop this nervous habit.
Hands in the pockets, assuming that you have pockets, cleaning your eyeglasses, or balling your fists are all negative body language, while finger pointing, drumming, and wagging are signals that you are impatient and wish for the date to end, unless you are consciously making these body language signs because you WANT the date to end.
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