A sexy couple has a certain look about them that shows they are together in a healthy way. Read and learn how to be a sexy couple. Then when you're out and about, start noticing if you see others with the look.
Instructions
Step 1TALK ABOUT SEX
The sexy couple is comfortable talking to each other about sex--what works, what doesn't; what they like and don't; how it was for them; new ideas and possibilities.
Get over feeling attacked. The discussion should be in the spirit of cooperation and information-gathering. How can you do something together really well without talking about it? You can't.
That's right, ya'll, you must talk about how things are going in the bedroom.
Be gentle and kind. Practice in bits and pieces until you get cool with this kind of conversation. Start out with, "Hey, that was pretty good last night, wasn't it." Then maybe something like, "That foot massage was really great." That's the beginning of a conversation. Then later say, "I heard about this cool book with some good ideas. Want to go to the book store?"
You may ask when's a good time for this kind of conversation; how about the morning after, over a cup of coffee? Sounds good to me. Or maybe later in the day as you take a walk together.
Step 2READ BOOKS ON BETTER LOVE MAKING
No one was born knowing how to be a great lover. You have to learn.
People spend hundreds of dollars and lots of time attending classes, reading books, studying and practicing to become an expert at something. Same if you want to be a sexy couple.
Step 3DON'T GET IN A ROMANTIC RUT
The same old routine gets boring. Keep the spark in your romance by being creative and spontaneous. Work on this and make a list together of new ideas.
Sex in the kitchen, anyone? Just an idea.
Step 4BEING A SEXY COUPLE DOESN'T JUST HAPPEN IN THE BEDROOM
Go biking, hiking and walking together. Replace that burned out light bulb over their sink. Have date night by going somewhere special. Light candles before they come home. Say thank you and please. Go grocery shopping together (and help put up the groceries). Be a good listener. Validate your partner's feelings. Help them with a tough project. Be there for them when they need you. Treat your partner's family with respect. Be proud of their accomplishments.
Get the idea? Basically, we're talking about treating your partner the way you'd like to be treated. But it may take conscious thought at first. Then, hopefully, it will come naturally.
Step 5BECOME AN INTERESTING PERSON
Sexy couples are interesting people in their own right. They have outside interests and are not obsessed with their partner.
Do not depend on your partner to entertain you or to fulfill your life in every way.
Take classes, meet with friends, read books, and have outside interests.
Sexy couples are not joined at the hip 24/7.
Step 6STAY FIT
Good sex takes energy, endurance and flexibility. If you've gained huge amounts of weight since you two hooked up, it's time to get it off.
Sexy couples stay in shape for their own health, as well as for the health of their romantic relationship with their partner.
Name me one person who's glad their partner has gained gobs of weight.
Step 7TREAT EACH OTHER WITH RESPECT
Kind words and deeds at all times make for a sexy couple.
Mutual respect for each partner (in public AND private) are the basic building blocks for all sexy couples' relationships.
Perfect your sexual and romantic techniques all you want, but if there is not mutual respect between partners, you will never be a sexy couple. Period.
Step 8BE ABLE TO GIVE AS WELL AS RECEIVE, AND RECEIVE AS WELL AS GIVE
What the heck does that mean, you ask. Well, if you're in a relationship where one partner is totally focused on doing all the giving, that's not fair. First of all, being a martyr is not healthy, and it could be a power play.
Also, if a partner is only interested in receiving, that's selfish.
So in a sexy relationship, each partner is able and willing to genuinely give as well as receive love and affection from their partner.
Step 9BE CLEAN AND SMELL GOOD
Sex is a contact sport and you must wash up before the event.
Considering that most love-making takes place when couples go to bed at night, does it really make sense to bathe only in the MORNING??!! You get the point (I hope). :-)
Step 10LOOK YOUR BEST
I'm not talking about fashion-perfect. But one of our senses is sight. A sexy couple will want to look good for each other, not just in public, but in private also.
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